Tricked by a Liar
By Relationship Barista Lissa Coffey
A member in Tempe dated a liar. 
Dear Lissa,
I was dating a man for over 4 1/2 years. About 2 weeks ago I found out that he is married and lives with his wife. The whole time he has been with me. He was with my kids and family on vacations, holidays and all the time.
Also, on top of that, he has been paying for escorts during this time. I contacted his wife to introduce myself. I just feel like an idiot and he doesn't care. I have a feeling that him and his wife are just changing their numbers and going on like nothing has happened.
It makes me sick. How do I move on and get over the huge hole in my heart, and the pit in my stomach? Also it bothers me that he can't even say I am sorry. I hate him and wish that he would hurt emotionally and financially because of his lies and deceit.
Dear Tricked,
First of all, you've cut him out of your life - so good for you! The guy is a liar and a fraud, and it is terrible that you got caught up in his deception. You are not an idiot. Unfortunately, this kind of thing happens far too often.
What you have to do now is to look at what you are doing. Don't worry about what he is doing, or what he is feeling, or even what his wife is doing - just focus on yourself and your own world.
The old adage that "what comes around goes around" really applies here - so let the Universe take care of what happens to that guy. It's not your responsibility.
Right now look at what is good in your life, give gratitude for that, focus on where you are going and don't look in the rear view mirror. Spend time with your family and friends, do things that you love to do, be good to yourself. Forgive yourself, love yourself.
Love,
Lissa
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