How Flirting, Fighting and Fibbing Can Improve Your Relationship
By Relationship Barista Lissa Coffey
 Cheating is wrong. But a little innocent flirting with someone other than your spouse can help you feel sexy and confident, and that’s a boost to a relationship. We get so used to each other that we tend to forget that aspect of our personality. Take that sexy energy home with you and use it in the bedroom! How much to flirt? Don’t do or say anything that you wouldn’t do in front of your spouse. If your spouse catches you flirting, that could be a relationship boost, too. They’re reminded of how lucky they are to have this great relationship with you.
Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes vowed to never go to bed angry. But sometimes that’s just what you need to strengthen your relationship. Fighting is cleansing – it gets all the gunk out on the table that’s been building up. The purpose of arguing is not to come to a consensus but to come to some clarification. Once you both understand what the issue is you can work on how to solve it. But don’t “over fight” – know when to take a time-out, even if it is overnight. Our emotions tend to get really worked up in the heat of an argument, and if we keep going we might say hurtful things that we don’t really mean. Give each other that “time-out” signal when you start feeling overwhelmed or out of control. It’s okay to take a break and re-visit the conversation with a clear head. Then you’re more likely to get resolution. Why stay up all night yelling at each other?
Honesty is key to any intimate relationship. But you can still bend the truth for the sake of being kind. If your husband asks if you find some young hunk in your office attractive, what is he really saying? He’s asking for assurance that you are still attracted to the old guy you married! So rather than going on about how handsome your co-worker is, you can turn it around and say: “He’s not my type, you’re my type!” or something similar. Maybe the guy is your type, but since you honestly intend to stick with your husband, that little lie helps to uphold the greater truth, which is that you love your husband and you don’t want to hurt his feelings.
Learn more about Lissa.
Do you have a relationship question for Lissa? E-mail us!
The information presented and the opinions expressed are those of the content provider. KTVK-TV and KASW-TV do not endorse the accuracy or reliability of any advice, opinion, statement, or other information by the content provider. You acknowledge that any reliance upon any such opinion, advice, statement, or information shall be at your sole risk.
|
