Can I get a second chance?
Coffey Talk, with Relationship Expert Lissa Coffey
Confused and Lost writes: 
"My husband and I have been together five years, almost married for two. We are separated right now. For the past nine months I have separated from him emotionally, physically and mentally. I have had an affair and committed more sins but too little time to name them all.
After nine months of being away, my husband threatened to leave me. I decided what is important to me and that is my marriage. I want to reconcile but he feels lost and wants to know where I’ve been during these nine months. He currently is staying with his friends, which I do not think are highly good influences for him. The problem is, every conversation turns into a fight, he throws all the wrongs I’ve made in my face, he’s so angry towards me.
He changes his mind daily about what he wants with our marriage. We both still love each other and I want us to work it out and he sort of wants that, he doesn’t know for sure yet.
For the past nine months, I have still hung out and become good friends with this "affair" guy. I’m confused and lost. I've lost my way and lost everything that has mattered to me most, my husband. My husband has been away one week and I’m losing my mind. Being without him makes me feel like I can’t breathe. I want my husband.
I need a friend to talk to, I need advice. I’ve lost my way with everything and I’m not the same person my husband fell in love with, I know that. But I want a second chance and I just don’t know how to fix everything. Help!"
Dear Confused and Lost:
You left your husband nine months ago, and now that he says he wants to leave you, you decide you want him back? You hurt him. Badly. You need to get that; you need to beg his forgiveness. And if you really do want to work it out with him you need to show him that, not just tell him that. You're going to have to work hard to make him fall back in love with you. And even harder to earn back his trust. But is that really what you want? What caused you to take off in the first place? What do you see in the affair guy that you don't see in your husband? Don't be trying to fix something if you're only going to go and break it again.
Love,
~ Lissa
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