A Sweet Connection Member from Chandler writes:
My husband and I only have one car and he uses it for work most days. I stay at home with our girls and some days I just need to get out. 

Since we only have one income we are really trying to save money where we can. My husband has a membership to a gym and I would like to start going as well but of course it would cost more money. 

My question is this. Since he goes to work during the day, works out at the gym at least twice a week and often goes to the golf range on the weekends, would it be fair to ask him to give up one of his activities so I could start working out and getting my self back in shape?

Dear Sweet Connection Member,
Is it fair to have you trapped at home all week while your husband is off working out and playing golf? I think not!  Here's what I suggest: A couple of days a week, you take the car and drop him off at work and pick him up. While he's at work, use the car to get out with your kids, take them to the park, do your grocery shopping, and if the gym has a play area for the kids, take them with you there, too. You can probably get a family membership for not much more than the individual membership your husband already has. You might also go to the gym with your husband so that you can spend time together. You need "me" time and you also need couple time - both of you.

A Sweet Connection Member from Avondale writes:
I am 22 and my husband is 45. I have had a rough growing up so therefore I am a lot more mature than most 22 year olds. Anyway, we have been married one year on the 20th of this month. We moved to Arizona last July, away from all my family.

So it has been almost a year since I have seen my parents. They are split up. My mother has Lupus and I would like to see her because that is something that could take 20 years till she passes or 20 months. No one knows.

Well, my husband just started a new job and can’t take a vacation yet. Me, I work dead end jobs that don’t care if you leave for vacation. You’re just not getting paid for it. Well, my grandmother paid for a ticket for me to fly home for a week to see both my parents.

Now is it wrong for me to go without my husband after only being married a year? He is worried because I grew up there that I will run into old boyfriends and people I don’t need to associate with anymore. Please help. I’m stuck in a rut! Thank you. 

Dear Sweet Connection Member,
Newsflash: When your husband married you, he also married your family. You need to spend time with your parents, and if he can't come with you then the only option is for you to travel alone. At 45 he must certainly be mature enough to understand this. But there's some insecurity here. He needs to get over it and not be afraid you're going to leave him for some younger, hotter guy. You are married, after all. And with that commitment must come trust in your judgment. Go see your mom, thank your grandmother for the ticket, and then after the nice visit go back to Arizona without any guilt. Your husband will see that he had nothing to worry about.

Love,
Lissa

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