A Creative Way to Call a Truce
from Relationship Barista Lissa Coffey 
To call a truce after a fight:
Remember: you think you’re right, he thinks he’s right. Even if you think he’s wrong, he’s convinced he’s right, or you wouldn’t be fighting!
At some point, there comes a time when we must agree to disagree. How to do that gracefully?
Raise the old “white flag”
Maybe it’s a hankie, or a dishtowel, or your tennis skirt – whatever is handy! It’s not necessarily a surrender, just a “let’s give up and move on.”
Send a funny e-mail
Laughter eases the tension – helps us to keep things in perspective. Soon you’ll be laughing at yourselves.
Ring a bell
Like after a boxing round, the “ding ding ding” is the signal for you two to take off your gloves!
Exchange a “peace idol”
It may be a teddy bear or a Buddha figurine, something that is significant to the two of you. Use it as a signal to drop a subject – it’s a peace offering that can go back and forth whenever it needs to. Keep it in the bedroom to remind each other to keep the peace!
Just mention “make-up sex” and he’ll back down pronto!
Apologize
There is nothing wrong with saying: “I’m so sorry that we had a fight.” Show that you can be mature and forgiving and you’ll receive the same in return.
Lissa Coffey,
Relationship Barista
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