Should I Trust Him?
By Relationship Barista Lissa Coffey
A member in Glendale has doubts about her boyfriend.
Dear Lissa,
My boyfriend and I are soon to be engaged and discussing marriage plans. I am upset that he insists on having a bachelor party where there will be naked girls at a strip bar. I am NOT ok with this and told him I will not marry him if this happens.
He assures me that nothing bad will happen because he loves me too much to do anything inappropriate but I think it is not necessary and disgusting.
Should I trust him that it is not a big deal and trust him that nothing will happen or keep to my ultimatum and walk if he insists?
Dear Not Quite Trusting,
First of all, you need to decide if you want to marry this guy without having the bachelor party figure into the equation. You're not even engaged yet, so you're really getting ahead of yourself and worrying yourself unnecessarily.
Secondly, ultimatums are not good for either party. It ends up being a control issue, and no one wins.
You two need to get to know each other better. Why does he want to have this kind of a party? Has he ever been to one? They're actually not as fun as they're made out to be. Maybe if he went to one of his friend's parties he'd get over it.
And he needs to understand why this bothers you so much, and maybe when he understands it he'll respect your feelings and give up the naked girl part of the idea. If you two end up having such vastly different opinions of what is fun and/or acceptable, you may not be an ideal match.
Good Luck!
Lissa
Learn more about Lissa.
Do you have a relationship question for Lissa? E-mail us!
The information presented and the opinions expressed are those of the content provider. KTVK-TV and KASW-TV do not endorse the accuracy or reliability of any advice, opinion, statement, or other information by the content provider. You acknowledge that any reliance upon any such opinion, advice, statement, or information shall be at your sole risk.
|
